8 Ways To Spice Things Up When You Have Kids

With some of these great strategies, you can continue spicing things up with your partner even after you have kids. Your sex life could just be better than ever!

When you have kids, your sex life can change immensely. Suddenly, it’s harder to find time to slip away. When you have young children, you’re often exhausted at the end of the day, making it harder to set aside time for one another.

Sound all too familiar?

Here’s the good news: the arrival of kids — or their growth into the toddler or elementary school years, when they’re more demanding than an infant who at least sleeps somewhat predictable hours — doesn’t have to spell the end of your sex life. In fact, with some of these great strategies, you can continue spicing things up with your partner. Your sex life could just be better than ever!

1. Set aside specific time for date nights

For some couples, this means setting a specific number of dates they “have” to get in: a date night each month, for example. Make date nights a priority in your relationship. Some of those date nights could spell sex: go away with your partner for an evening or even rent a hotel room for a few hours in the afternoon. Those hours spent reconnecting sexually could prove priceless to your overall sex life.

Struggling to find a babysitter? Partner with another family in the same boat. Alternate weeks: you’ll take their kids for an evening so they can spend some time alone together, then they’ll spend time with yours so that you can get some time away.

2. Get creative about locations

Have sex on the bathroom counter. Sneak into the laundry room for a few stolen minutes alone together. Explore one another’s bodies in the garage. Take a bath or a shower together and let your play take you where it will. Often, you can steal a few minutes while the kids are engaged in another game or watching television — and those minutes…