Explore these tried and tested hand-job techniques to take your hand job from good to great.

The beloved hand-job gets overlooked far too often. Yes, your partner might be able to do it better themselves but that’s not to say they aren’t receiving a seriously pleasurable time from you having a go. Incorporating hand jobs into your sex life is a great way to move away from penetrative and goal orientated sex, and giving an amazing hand job is one way to ensure their eternal gratefulness.

You may know how to give a hand job already but unless your partner’s…


When people think about kink the first thing to come to mind is usually something to do with bondage, rope and harnesses. Yet there is much more to kinky relationships than the physical, with the four main pillars centering around trust and openness. How can the principles of kink improve every relationship? And why should the principles of kink be applied to all relationships?

Kink looks different to every person, but its core holds four main principles of the highest importance. Communication. Honesty. Respect. Trust.

Now, any relationship should hold these four components at their core but there is a…


These kinky sex ideas are a great entry point to kinkier sex — some might appeal massively and others might be a huge turn-off.

After years together even the hottest relationship can become a little lackluster in the bedroom. Adding a little kink into the bedroom can be a great way to spice up your relationship and explore your fantasies and desires. Whether you are looking for something on the tamer side or unleashing your wild side you are sure to find something that will satisfy your sexual cravings.

Kink is very subjective — what is kinky to you might…


Vaginal dryness is a hallmark symptom of menopause, specifically in postmenopausal women, but it can also affect any woman regardless of what point in their life they are in.

Why do you get vaginal dryness during menopause?

Vaginal dryness can affect anyone, but it is far more prevalent during menopause. This is because of the fall in estrogen, which plays an important role in the menstrual cycle, usually keeping the lining of the vagina healthy and lubricated. But during perimenopause, those levels fall which can lead to less natural lubrication and thinning vaginal tissue. …


If you have a partner going through menopause chances are you’ve seen some changes in them both physically and mentally. From the dreaded hot flushes to a libido that ebbs and flows, to a teary partner, you may be wondering how to best support your partner. What to say and not say, and how to get through menopause together.

The last thing you want is to stop talking and watch as your relationship deteriorates in front of your eyes. But with over 60% of divorces being initiated by women aged between 40 and 60, menopause can be a difficult time…


The pelvic floor is a layer of core muscles that sits like a hammock between your pubic bone and your coccyx, supporting your core and keeping all your pelvic organs where you want them.

Like any muscle, the pelvic floor needs a regular workout to avoid any problems, and to maintain pelvic health many people do kegel exercises. But for people with tight pelvic floor muscles, Kegels can further overwork the muscles causing a hypertonic pelvic floor — making it even tenser.

There is no singular reason for tight pelvic floor muscles, just a few possible causes are high levels…


Vaginismus is a condition that affects millions of people, yet can all too often feel completely isolating for women and their partners. The silence that surrounds this issue quite often leads to distress and feelings of helplessness. With a combination of vaginismus exercises and pelvic floor therapy, you can overcome vaginismus and get back to enjoying your sex life.

Vaginismus is where the vaginal muscles around the opening involuntarily retract. This automatic action is not intended and quite often the woman doesn’t want it to happen! The penetration in question could be anything from a tampon to vaginal penetration —…


Vaginismus is a common condition that affects an estimate of the population, yet it is still rarely spoken about. It is an automatic reaction where your vaginal muscles tighten up whenever vaginal penetration is attempted, and the sufferer has no control of the reaction. It could be any form of penetration such as a sex toy, a tampon, or even a health check-up. There are different types of vaginismus and symptoms vary hugely between individuals. Without treatment, vaginismus could lead to frustration and distress which has a greater effect on your mental health.

Symptoms of vaginismus

Women with vaginismus may experience symptoms such…


Is your vagina ‘too tight’? Are you finding it uncomfortable during intercourse or even using tampons? There are many reasons you may be experiencing discomfort due to a tight vagina and finding out what the reason is the first step to alleviating your discomfort. Millions of women around the world at some point during their life suffer from a vaginal canal that feels too tight for pleasure and health checkups. This causes problems not only in your sex life but also for your health as many women avoid pap smears and pelvic exams.

This is because of the physical and…


Masturbation can provide a very satisfying release and be a great way to unwind at the end of the day (or in the middle or at the start or any time quite honestly). And even if you are a professional at solo-sex, this round-up of the best female masturbation positions (or anyone with a vulva specifically) could add a spice of variety into your usual routine. After all the best way to improve your solo session is by mixing things up from the sensations you love to the erogenous zones you touch.

Experiment with temperatures, lubes, sex toys. If you…

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