Why Does Sex Feel Like A Chore? 8 Ways To Change That

If sex feels like a chore, try these tips and techniques to help keep that sexual spark alive.

Written By: Somatic Sexologist and Sex Coach Alice Child

Sex is supposed to be fun, intimate and most importantly pleasurable for all involved. After all, it’s where we can be most playful, authentic and connected with our partners.

However, it’s very easy to fall into sexual ruts and end up feeling like sex is a chore. Many people in long-term relationships stop desiring or prioritizing sex, which can lead to disconnection or even resentment within the relationship. This change in desire can make someone feel like the relationship is failing, that they no longer have what they once had, or that they are no longer capable of feeling pleasure the way they used to.

Fortunately, there are numerous ways to help rekindle desire, arousal and connection, injecting more pleasure into a relationship. This can also be extremely fun and rewarding, especially when approached with a curious and excited mindset. Not to mention, couples who confront the challenges of maintaining passion are more likely to thrive.

Here are 8 reasons why sex might begin to feel like a chore along with practical tips and techniques…